Tips to give give her mind-blowing sex with strong orgasms
Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! Read these tips below to learn how to give her mind-blowing sex regularly.
But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little oomph? Well, there is plenty you can do to turn your ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in (and out!) of the bedroom and give her mind-blowing sex day in and day out.
Discover 69 sensuous tips for making your wife or partner melt in between the sheets and giving her the best sex ever.
1 Get her engines warmed up
The bedroom becomes a drab place if you’ve lost (or never found) the art of teasing your woman to arouse and excite her. Women aren’t turned on instantly but once they do, they can stay aroused for a long time. Use your hands and tongue to heighten her anticipation and sexily craft an atmosphere of desire. Focus the first 10 minutes exclusively on her… it will soon get her erotic engine purring.
2 Let her on top
Instead of the standard missionary position, let her get on top so that she has total rhythmic control over the speed and intensity of penetration. This position also enables you to stimulate her breasts and clitoris and build up her arousal quickly. For a variation of this position, have her face away from you. This allows you to have a greater chance of stimulating her G-spot with your penis.
3 Try a little being caught risk
Nothing gets a woman aroused faster than the risk of being caught in the act. It’s the ultimate taboo. If she’s all for the idea, try it! Be bold, be adventurous and use a little imagination. Try out this fun fantasy in the fitting room of a retail store. As she heads to the fitting room, slip in unnoticed, watch her undress, caress her and get in the act, all amidst other shoppers in the background.
4 Erotic films exposure
Watch an erotic film together during one of your intimate nights. Pick any suggestive videos that both of could snuggle up to. Pay close attention to the scenes in the media material because after viewing
some of them, you should be ready to relive each moment. Do a remake of the scenes and let these run for 15 to 20 minutes.
5 Hide and seek oral sex
When both of you are at home, one of you go hide out. Whoever finds each other will perform oral sex. Have fun for a few minutes then hide and seek out each other again. Do this a few times and soon her clitoris will be throbbing in ecstasy… and she will crave for you to enter her.
6 Power of sweet nothings
A woman’s mind is the central repository of all her sexual emotions and energy. Thus your words and the way you touch her can be the gateway to turning her on. Whispering sexily into her ears is a very
powerful skill and a good start place to start. Gentle, non-sexual touching works wonderfully well too. This can be something as simple as running your fingers through her hair or holding her close to you.
7 Mix it up and avoid routine
The fastest way to bedroom boredom is to keep doing the same things, same techniques, same positions over and over again. Try something new. If you regularly make out in the bedroom, try out in the backyard, on the dining table, in the laundry room (right on top of the washer!).
8 G-spot stimulation
Let her lie on her back, lift her legs up so that they embrace your shoulders and then enter her. This allows you to penetrate deeply and hit her G-spot, especially if you have a penis that bends slightly
upwards when erect. Hint: Give her simultaneous clitoral stimulation using your thumb while you are penetrating her. This will double her pleasure and prime her for a truly fulfilling orgasm… only faster!
9 Take your time
Cliche as it may sound, sex is not something done with clockwork precision. Relax and enjoy each other’s company and body. For a woman, sex is as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one. Start on the right foot and you will set the stage for a sensational orgasm for her later.
10 Cunnilingus orgasms
Oral sex alone can trigger an amazing orgasm in a woman… even without sexual penetration. A good 10 minutes is enough to set her up for the big ‘O’ very quickly. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet with
your tongue on her; she will find this extremely arousing as your tongue stimulates her in different directions. Hint: She will love the lower-case letter “i”, with the dot hitting her with erotic pleasure.
11 Sex toys?
No matter how good you are in bed, sometimes you need a little “help” to maximize her pleasure. Why not bring along a sex toy? Choose one that is intended for anal stimulation. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and give a woman incredible pleasure.
12 Pleasurable position
Have her lean over the edge of the bed so that the top half of her body is flat against the bed. Then penetrate her from behind while you’re standing or kneeling. This position makes penetration extremely
pleasuring for both of you.
13 Sex and food
There are a thousand things you can do with food… in your bedroom! Smear whipped cream all over your partner’s body and then lick it off… sloooowly! You can even try chocolate for a more flavored
experience. Spread the good stuff all over your partner’s body. Licking it off slowly will take her over the moon.
14 Broadening stimulation
While you rub, stroke and stimulate her clitoris, do the same to her breast, mouth or even her toes – or anywhere that she loves to be touched. This works magically to ramp up her anticipation to a level
that you can easily bring her to an orgasm later.
15 Standing sex
Having intercourse in a standing position can be extremely arousing. Let her face you while standing, with her back to the wall. Open her legs just a little and penetrate her from the front. For the extra climatic factor, do this with both your clothes on, with her just wearing a skirt and no panties.
16 Give her mind-blowing sex with G-spot stimulation
Once she is well-lubricated, insert two fingers into her vagina to locate and arouse her G-spot (it feels a ribbed bump, a little like the roof of your mouth). Rub against it with your fingers using a “come here” movement. You can also stimulate the G-spot during penetrative sex – especially in the doggie-style position – and give her sensational squirting orgasms.
17 Don’t neglect her neck
Women love to be touched on their necks with tender loving strokes. The lower neck are full of nerve endings, so every single touch with your fingertips to that erogenous zone will pleasure her to no end. Hint: Try planting some delicate kisses on her neck while you’re stroking it. It will amp up her anticipation very quickly.
18 The harder the better
A penis ring reduces the amount of blood draining out of your erection, and keeps you harder for a longer period. Did you know that a very hard penis stimulates a woman’s vagina slightly differently? In fact, the sensations are much more intense compared to a member that is getting soft around the edges.
19 Work up to her breasts
A woman’s breast is an erogenous area that men love to touch. But it pays to be patient. If you focus on the rest of her body first, starting with her hands, wrist, her neck, it will get her aroused much faster.
When she’s highly aroused, move on to her breast and nipples, gently kissing, stroking and licking them.
20 Hot kitchen sex
Many women fantasise making out in the kitchen, so why not have a go in the “hottest” place at home. If this is something new to her, chances are, it will blow her mind too. Think about it… your kitchen
has plenty of comfortable nooks and corners that are comfortable for oral sex or even intercourse. Get her up on the kitchen counter, the dining table, or even the kitchen sink. Be adventurous, take your
chances and spice things up. This little surprise will UP the excitement for her.
21 Dirty dialogue
Most men don’t know what truly turns a woman on in between the sheets. The way to this is simply ask her! Get into some hot dirty dialog. Observe her when she touches herself and learn where her hot
buttons are, then stimulate her the same way. This will get her sexual desires up in a hurry.
22 Tongue her hot
Oral sex works exceptionally well to get a woman all hot and sexy under the sheets. If you want to send her over the erotic edge every single time, try this: gently stimulate her clitoris. When you see she’s
slowly getting aroused, vary the intensity of your tongue movement. This will push her closer to orgasm very quickly.
23 Coloured lights
Turn on a purple-coloured light bulb in the bedroom for that extra sensuality. This color is known to intensify a woman’s orgasm… plus, it adds a really hot and sexy backdrop for any lovemaking session.
24 Start at the edges
There are plenty of erogenous zones where you can work her up to an erotic frenzy without even starting intercourse. Stroke the bottom of her neck at the back, and watch her get aroused. Now stroke and kiss her neck… this will send her sexual anticipation soaring very quickly.
25 Enhanced doggy-style can give her mind-blowing sex
The doggy-style is a great position that women love, because it is primal and can give them wild orgasms when you penetrate with the right angle and tempo. Here’s a little variation that will blow her mind: Instead of getting her down on all fours, place a pillow beneath her tummy and let on lie flat on the bed. This slight elevation helps you thrust downwards into her orgasmic zone and stimulate the upper walls of her vagina.
26 Anal teasing
Still on the subject of doggy-style…While you are penetrating her, allow only your penis to touch her. Lick your finger to lubricate it with your saliva and rub it against her anus (make sure you keep your nails clean and trimmed). If she’s clearly enjoying what you are doing, slowly insert your fingertip into her anus. Withdraw your finger and repeat again. The stimulation to both her vagina and anus can bring a woman to an amazingly intense orgasm.
27 Tease her with speed control
When you’re penetrating her, vary the speed and intensity, and make sure your pubic mound is rubbing against her clitoris. When she’s on the brink of orgasm, slow down your penetrations. She will want you to give it to her as feverishly as you can. This trick will not only make you last longer and boost your sexual stamina, she will get a mind-blowing orgasm just knowing how erotically you’re teasing her!
28 Share sexual fantasies
You’ll be pleasantly surprised that your partner has plenty of sex fantasies that she’s probably keeping them from you – because you never ask! So why not have some dirty talk with her. If she’s too shy to
open up, then share your fantasies with her! Both of you could very well act out her fantasies and have a night both of you will never forget.
29 Kegel exercises
Most women need at least 10 to 15 minutes of stimulation before they can climax. Unfortunately, most guys last only a short 2-4 minutes. Kegel exercises are great for improving sexual stamina by
strengthening the PC muscle. You can locate this muscle by halting your urine flow midway; the muscle that you feel contracting is the PC muscle. Doing kegels for just 5 minutes a day for 2 weeks can make
you last as long as she does, or even outlast her.
30 Lips attention
Her soft, sweet lips hold thousands of tiny nerve endings. You’d be pleasantly surprised how this simple gesture can turn her on very easily. Kiss her and give her lips some tender loving attention. The trick is to start slow, plant gentle kisses, then kick up into a more intense and passionate mode.
31 Don’t dive straight in
When giving women oral sex, many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their partners with their tongue. Women are analog. You need to slowly turn the dial to heat her up. Take your time to playfully tease her; kiss her on her neck and nibble on her ear lobes; gently stroke her inner thighs. All these little gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start going down on her.
32 Totally naked is not always best
Don’t undress completely during sex. Let the rough texture of your clothes work a little magic on her bare skin. Then undress her and watch her as your clothing brushes against her skin – your shirt buttons, belt buckles, the tail of your shirt. These things can create incredibly sexy sensations in her. No woman can resist the spell of a man on top of her, fully dressed!
33 Give her a hand job
Most men don’t regard a woman’s hand as sexy. But her hands and wrists are highly sensitive areas that she would love you to touch her. Try gently stroking her palm or on the inside of her wrist. Give a long gentle stroke from her inner wrist all the way to her lower arm. This will get her aroused and wanting more.
34 Role playing
Explore and act out her fantasies. Let her release all her hidden desires. If she’s too shy to suggest any, lead her on! Have her play these delightful roles: high-school discipline master, cheerleader, White House intern or even a policewoman (complete with handcuffs and baton). Use your imagination.
35 Ear orgasm?
A woman’s ears are one of the most sensual parts of her body. Try leaning your body against hers, gently whispering into her ear. Tell her how much you want and adore her. The gentle stir of warm air around her ear will heighten her sexual anticipation.
36 Take your time
Refrain from heading straight for her genitals. Instead, tease her playfully. For example, kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on her sensual spots from her ears, to her neck, down her
navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes. When she expects you to go for her breasts and clitoris, purposely avoid them. This will escalate her sexual anticipation. And when you finally decide to reach those sensitive zones, her heart will be racing and her chances of achieving a toe-curling, sheet-gripping orgasm will increase tenfold. She will beg you to get physical.
37 Spice it up with different places
Instead of the bedroom, try making out in the bathroom. The steamy mist from the running hot water will ramp up her sexual temperatures. The bathtub makes for one hot titillating place to make out. Or have her bend over the basin and penetrate her from behind. Better yet, do this in someone else’s bathroom for that added erotic adventure!
38 Observe and repeat
Observe where and how your woman touches herself during sex. Then do the same to her, stimulating her the same way. This will amp up her erotic enjoyment in the bedroom.
39 Many hands and fingers
Stimulating her clitoris alone can get her aroused; it just takes longer. If you also simultaneously caress another part of her that she loves – her breasts, lips, ears, even her toes – you will easily send her heightened anticipation through the roof.
40 Public places?
Just about everyone had fantasied about having sex in a public place. This can add plenty of spice and anticipation and make it a really hot sexual encounter. Need some quick ideas? Try the porch swing, on the hood of your car in a deserted gravel road, in a public restroom, in a quiet state park, or on the beach – right on the lifeguard’s chair.
41 Easy does it
The way you stimulate a woman’s clitoris is important. When she is not properly aroused, touching or stimulating the clitoris may feel uncomfortable. Give her indirect stimulation first. Run your fingers on each side of her clitoris shaft and caress her clitoral hood with your thumb. When she becomes aroused, she will be breathing heavily and the clitoral hood will swell up. This is when you know she’s ready for more and ready for some mind-blowing sex.
42 Grinding to ecstasy
No matter how hard or how deep you penetrate her, you are unlikely to stimulate her enough to climax. Instead of thrusting straight in, perform a grinding movement, using your hips to mimic a rotational motion. This works great for her because your pelvic bone will rub against her clitoris and sufficiently stimulate her to an orgasm.
43 Keep the rhythm going
Be consistent with your movement and rhythm during intercourse. If she likes what you are doing, keep at it. Many men forget about this and attempt to change the pace just when their partners are getting into the mood, only to bring their women back to square one. If you sense that she can’t take it anymore, this means she’s about to hit the peak. Keep the tempo going and you will bring her over the edge and give her mind-blowing sex.
44 Sensual massages
Devote ample time to get her aroused and excited. Sensual massages work really well with many women. This form of massage is like any other types of massage; the only difference is that it focuses more on her erogenous zone or sensitive hot buttons. Lavish her with your seductive ways and she will show you the signs that she is ready for you to take it to the next step.
45 Use both your fingers and tongue
When you are giving her oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use both your fingers and tongue, you will exponentially intensify her
pleasure. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing her clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously.
46 Erotic adult literature
Tickle her fancy to make her more open to sex. Some erotic adult literature can be a great help too. For example, before you tuck her in for the night, read her some pages from those adult materials. She may
have more than just sleep on her mind!
47 Appreciate her body
A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ. It is the focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful
climax is just a clitoral rub away. Hint: Learn to genuinely appreciate her body. This is extremely powerful in getting her to relax. Many women feel insecure about their bodies. So compliment her body and make her feel sexy about herself.
48 Take note and replicate
Sex toys are great ways to learn more about a woman’s body and what turns her on the most. Pay attention to her so you can sexually synchronise with her. For instance, if she has a vibrator, ask her to
show you how to use it. Take note of the speed, angle and the kind of pressure that she likes and then replicate these on her using your tongue, fingers or your penis. She’ll be blown away and you can give her mind-blowing sex as a consequence.
49 In the open
There is something about engaging in sexual acts in the open that turns women on. If you have a balcony at home, it is a great place to slowly tease her into having sex “in the open”. You can engage in some light foreplay in the bedroom and when you get her sufficiently aroused, offer to give her a more “sensual service” in the balcony.
50 Variation to the missionary position
This is a variation to the missionary position. Instead of embracing her face-down, raise her lower back using a pillow, sit on your knees and penetrate her fully. While you are thrusting, moisten your index and
forefinger and stimulate her clitoris simultaneously. To make things more fun, encourage your partner to rub her clitoris with you. After a few moments, remove your hands and enjoy the sight of her pleasing
herself. Coupled with your simultaneous thrusting, this will enhance and intensify her orgasms.
51 Sex and water
Sex and water makes for a tantalising combo. If you have a swimming pool in your backyard, this will be great for some water oral sex with a little privacy. You can go down on her at the pool side, on the steps or even on an inflatable boat right in the middle of the pool. Don’t have a swimming pool? Your own bathtub works just as great!
52 Do it in the kitchen
The kitchen offers plenty of props that will spice things up if you plan to have oral sex. Whipped cream, ice cream or even liquid chocolate are all great companions to give her a sizzling oral session. And there is no lack of locations in the kitchen too. The kitchen sink, the dining table, the counter all offer comfortable places to give her a great time.
53 Try something new
Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to try something new, but held back because of what your woman may think? If so, it’s time to break out of that rut, because there’s a great chance that she wants to try something new! But like you, she may be uncomfortable to bring this up. Don’t let these thoughts hold you back. Get creative, get bold and spice things up a notch in the bedroom!
54 Surprise her
Surprise her once in a while by taking her on when she least expects it. For example, when she’s expecting you to perform on the bed, do it against a wall and take her on. Do it with your clothes on. That is a huge turn on for women. Better still, get into the act about 10 minutes before someone is due for a visit! The sheer suddenness, the wildness and the thrill of getting caught with your pants down will give her mind-blowing sex.
55 Never skip foreplay
If you want her to enjoy sex as much as you do, take your time and make sure she is adequately aroused first. If you can focus some time on foreplay, you will actually intensity her orgasms later. Or for that matter, she may very well get one during foreplay itself. So heighten her anticipation first and the both of you will enjoy a far more sizzling time together.
56 Oral sex humming
Give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes during oral sex. To spice things up, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to her clitoris.
Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her
passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.
58 Sweet kisses
Suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. She will get hot really fast and you will give her mind-blowing sex.
59 Give her butt love
Why not give her butt some loving attention? Lie her down on her front, apply some warm oil and gentle massage her butt. Then proceed to caress and lick them. When you sense she’s totally relaxed and getting comfortable, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her into a sexual frenzy like no other. When she’s getting really hot and excited, turn her over and let your lovemaking begin.
60 Furniture sex
Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. You can experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With stimulated during sex.
61 From behind
Penetrate your partner from behind, with both of you lying on your sides. Allow her top leg to slip over your hip while you pull her buttocks towards your groin. She will love the feeling of your chest pressed against her back and your arms wrapped around her. This position is also amazingly comfortable and you can heighten her orgasmic potential by caressing her breasts and clitoris while you are thrusting her.
62 Good old-fashioned love, affection and attention ticks the boxes
Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach a climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in giving a woman incredible sex.
63 Connect on an emotional level
For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. Value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. This will make her sexually attracted to you. And when you give her an amazing time in bed, you will be rewarded with much more from her as well as being able to give her mind-blowing sex.
64 Imitating in public places
Send her erotic temperatures soaring through the roof by imitating “thrusting” movements against her with your clothes on. Here’s the trick: do this in a public place, such as a movie theatre or a club. The trick is in performing this erotic act where both of you cannot lead to full intercourse. This way, both of you will be ultra-hot for sex and you can make her come around in a hurry when you get home
later or in this case, sooner!
65 Make her feel appreciated
Make your woman feel wanted and appreciated. When you kiss her, look into her eyes and run your fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalising foreplay. When you penetrate
her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively first. You will emerge a far better lover.
66 Tongue her all over
When it comes to oral sex, use your tongue and mouth to explore her entire body. A woman’s body is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas. Start with these areas first, and when she is
sufficiently aroused and stimulated, move on to her clitoris and start gently. Experiment with different tongue movements and intensity, and see what gives her the most pleasure.
67 Mimic her
Observe what she does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach an orgasm through masturbation alone). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then replicate these movements on her.
68 Stimulate her G-spot
Lick around her vagina, from her clitoris right down to her perineum (the diamond-shaped area between her vagina and anus). When she is sufficiently lubricated, insert two fingers – palm facing up – about 2 to 3 inches into her vagina to locate and stimulate her G-spot. Continue to arouse her with your tongue focused on her clitoris. You will soon prime her for very powerful clitoral-cum-G-spot orgasms.
69 Make some noise
For some women, screaming during sex is what actually causes them to come to an orgasm. It’s not so much the act of screaming that that causes her to climax. It is the act of letting herself go, the act of totally relaxing her mind and body, the act of totally losing her inhibitions, that leads her to a sexual ecstasy like no other. So encourage her to make some noise in bed!
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So there you have 69 tried-and-tested tips to send a woman into orgasmic ecstasy and ways to spice up your sex life and give your wife or lover amazing sex that will blow her mind. For starters, pick a few of those tips that you like, and put them to action tonight. You will see (and feel) something sensational when you do!
The key to sensational sex is to simply learn about your partner’s sexual landscape, understanding how her body works and making her melt with passion. Make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be sexually and emotionally fulfilled, relaxing her mind and body, the act of totally losing her inhibitions, that leads her to a sexual ecstasy like no other. So encourage her to make some noise in bed!
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