Getting and Staying Hard – How To :)
Previously I have written about how in order to get and stay hard and overcome E.D. you don’t need medication…
As long as you have the physical capability to get hard, whether that be while watching porn, masturbating or even while you’re sleeping or first thing in the morning… then that means you have the potential to get hard whenever you want.
All you need to do is figure out how to tap into that potential.
Then we talked about how what stops guys from getting hard is typically what goes through their head.
Nervousness, anxiety and fear cripple a guy’s ability to get and stay hard, so you need to employ techniques and strategies to overcome these emotions.
Now what I’m going to suggest today is slightly different,but still ties in with what I discussed the other day.
Today I want you to ask yourself…
If in the last 6 months you’ve experienced a 100% natural erection in any situation, what was unique about that situation?
The reason I recommend you ask this is because once you figure out what’s unique, you can use those unique attributes to recreate an erection in the future.
But before we get to that, let’s break it down another level.
Assuming you didn’t answer “never” to the question (in which case this particular exercise won’t work for you) there are two scenarios…
1) You can remember a time when you had sex where this situation happened
2) You can remember a time when you weren’t having sex where this situation happened
If the answer is number 1 then you’re closer to your end goal than if your answer is number 2.
So let’s start with number 2.
If there’s a time when you were able to get fully hard within the last 6 months then you need to figure out what was unique to that situation.
And not only that, you need to look for things that you can recreate in the bedroom.
This is important.
Saying something like “it was unique because I was by myself” isn’t empowering, because you can’t use this to help you get hard when you’re with your lover.
You have to figure out what about that situation was unique.
So yes, perhaps you were alone, but that wasn’t the only thing that was unique… I imagine that if you’re able to get hard while alone, but not with your lover then it must be what you’re focussing on psychologically.
Figure out what you’re focussing on that’s different when you’re by yourself that allows you to get hard vs. what you focus on when you’re with your lover.
Then, try and bridge the gap and transfer those attributes to sexual situations.
If you want to be able to get hard during sex, you’ve got to figure out what’s unique when you can get hard and then transfer that.
Since everyone is different there’s only so much I can
do to help you with this.
Essentially you’ve got to figure out the difference between what causes you to get hard and what causes you to fail to get hard (in situations where you’d like to get hard) and then do more of what does work for you.
If your answer was number 1 to the question earlier then the same process still applies, but you’ve just got it slightly easier.
If you’re sometimes able to get hard when you have sex, but then not others you’ve just got figure out what the differences is between when you can get hard and when you can’t and then start doing more of what works for you.
It sounds simple, but this is a very powerful trick for overcoming E.D. and being able to get and stay hard.
Now, if you’d like to learn some specific strategies for getting and staying hard and would like to dive deeper into what kind of things trigger hardness, then watch this video …