Stay hard for hours
Tricks to stay hard for hours
Let me paraphrase a common question I get:
(And by the way, picture the guy writing this as sobbing because he’s so desperate to be able to stay hard for hours and worried about his sex life)
Ed, I don’t know what to do. I can never stay hard during sex. My lover is getting so frustrated. I feel so bad because I love her so much and I know she’s thinking of being with other guys, when we have sex. I just panic and don’t know what to do. I can’t afford to screw up much longer or she’s going to leave. What should I do? I just get so nervous during sex. And then I worry she’s not happy. I just so want her to be happy
Now don’t take this in any way as a form of disrespect to men who send me these type of messages. I always appreciate every guy who takes the time to write in and I know how difficult dealing with sexual challenges can be.
My point is not to judge, my point is this:
Can you see just by reading this message the reason why guys like this probably can’t get and stay hard for hours (sometimes not even for a few minutes) throughout sex?
They’re too tense. They’re taking sex way too seriously. And they’re just plain worrying too much. Listen, if this resembles you, then pay close attention – and relax!
Stress, worry and fear kills being able to get rock-hard and stay hard for hours. The more you worry and the more you put pressure on yourself the less likely you are to be able to stay hard for any length of time.
Stop taking sex so seriously!
Now don’t shrug this off thinking “that’s easy for you to say” or claim “I’m not affected by stress”. To get results you need to put down your excuses and denials.
Take some time to evaluate how you look at sex. Realize that all this pressure and all these expectations you’re putting on yourself are actually negatively affecting your performance.
I know it’s coming from a good place wanting yourself to perform your absolute best and to impress your lover. But this intention, when not nurtured correctly, can actually lead to the opposite result.
So try the following: Instead of thinking sex as this high-pressure activity, look at sex as a chance to share a connection with your lover.
Don’t make it about the performance. It’s not just being able to stay hard for hours. Make it about the connection. Look to have fun with her, look to pleasure her and look to have a good time.
If you fail to get hard or your start to lose your hardness part of the way through – relax. It’s not about that, it’s about having a good time with your lover.
When you really connect with this intention, you’ll actually find that it’s easier to stay hard for hours, because you’re not stressing out your body with fear and worry.
Now, there are more advanced techniques to gaining control over getting hard. If you want to take it to the next level then check out this video: