Tricks to last longer in bed
A lot of guys have been asking me about tricks to last longer in bed and get more firm and stay firm during sex.
So today I want to share some tips on exactly this.
Firstly, a lot of guys get the impression that staying firm is either something only young guys can do, is an ability you’re born with or is only possible with special pills.
But what trumps all these things is the following…
What you focus on during sex has a huge impact on your ability to get and stay firm.
And if you look at most guys who can’t stay firm, there’s a very predictable pattern of focus.
Typically it’ll go something like this…
When in bed with a woman the guy will get excited about the idea of sex and he’ll get hard…
Some form of sexual activity will start happening, whether it’s foreplay or sex itself, but then suddenly the guy will notice his hardness fading slightly.
And as soon as this happens the guy will go into a downward spiral of panic.
Instantly he’ll start fearing that he’ll completely lose it and then fail at sex completely.
And, inevitably, he begins to lose even more firmness, causing him to worry even more, causing him to lose even more firmness until eventually he is left
completely flaccid acting out his own self-fulfilling prophecy.
Now this process is something you may never have thought about consciously, but it’s something that happens to a lot of guys, and it’s perhaps happened to you.
And if it has happened to you, here’s the solution to this challenge…
You’ve got to break the vicious cycle and self-fulfilling prophecy.
And the way to do it is relax and focus on the right things.
See, it’s actually natural for your hardness to vary slightly during sex.
It won’t necessary happen every time, but when you do temporarily lose a bit of hardness it’s crucial to relax and not place too much expectation on yourself.
Fearing the complete loss of hardness is, as we’ve already described, a self-fulfilling prophecy, because fear kills your ability to stay hard.
Therefore, in future, if you notice yourself losing hardness the solution is to relax, understand that it’s natural for stiffness to vary and then focus on giving pleasure, rather than on your own performance.
When you shift your focus to her pleasure and really associate to how she’s feeling, as she begins to feel more and more pleasure you’ll quickly notice your own arousal returning, at which point you’ll also regain your stiffness.
But this is only possible when you manage your focus.
Letting yourself get whipped up into a vicious cycle of fear must be avoided at all costs.
Now, there are more advanced tricks to last longer in bed and managing your focus and giving yourself full, vein-bulging hardness… and to discover more about them, be sure to check out this video of mine…
PS – You’ll be surprised at just how much your mind and particularly your focus can impact your sexual ability.
Discover my proven techniques for managing your focus to get and stay hard and giving women intense orgasms here…